How Micromanaging Your Relationship Is Pushing Your Partner Away
Control is a lie. It’s a security blanket made of barbed wire. You think if you hold on tight enough, if you get your partner to say the right things, do the right things, be the right way, then you can keep everything together. No pain, no heartbreak, no surprises. Just smooth sailing.
But here’s the truth bomb: the more you grip, the more you lose.
Trying to control your relationship is like squeezing a fistful of sand—the tighter you hold, the faster it slips through your fingers. Love isn’t about controlling every detail. It’s about trusting, letting go, and allowing things to unfold naturally. You’re either building a relationship based on freedom or one based on fear.
And fear? That’s where control comes from.
Why We Try to Control Our Partners
Control is fear wearing a mask. Fear of being hurt. Fear of losing someone. Fear of things not going the way you planned. Maybe you got burned before. Maybe you were abandoned. Whatever the reason, control feels like a way to protect yourself.…