How to Set Healthy Boundaries with Your Ex

Remember, you broke up for a reason.

I don’t care if it was a messy, emotional, or even mutual situation. Once it's done, it’s done. And that means it’s time to set some hard boundaries with your ex. Not the polite, passive-aggressive “I’ll text you once a month to check in” boundaries. No. I’m talking about real, clear, strong boundaries that keep your peace intact.

If you’re not sure where to start, I’ll break it down for you in a way that even your ex can understand.

1. No Contact. Period.

This isn’t a game. It’s not a “let’s give it time and see where things go.” You know what happens when you “keep things casual”? You stay emotionally attached, you can’t heal, and you’re stuck in this toxic limbo.

Do yourself a favor and cut off contact. Don’t tell yourself that a text here and there is harmless. It's not. Every message, every like on social media, every “accidental” bump into each other at the coffee shop—these things are little hits of the drug that is your ex. They’ll keep you hooked, make you think things are "fine,…