The Power of Solitude: How Embracing Being Single Can Transform Your Life

Being single often gets a bad rap.

Society constantly bombards us with the message that happiness lies in finding “the one.” We’re conditioned to believe that our life begins once we’re in a relationship, and until then, we’re just waiting around. But what if I told you that being single—truly embracing your solitude—could be one of the most transformative experiences of your life?

I’m not talking about enduring singlehood as if it’s something to suffer through. I’m talking about learning to thrive in it, to see this time as an opportunity for growth, self-discovery, and joy. In Single on Purpose, I explore the beauty and power of solitude—not as something to avoid, but as something to embrace fully.

Here’s why being single might just be the best thing that’s ever happened to you, and how you can use this time to transform your life.

1. Reframe Your Perspective on Solitude

The first step to embracing solitude is changing the way you think about it. Most people see being alone as something to fix, a sign that they’re missing out or that something is wrong with them. But being alone doesn’t mean you’re lonely, and it certainly doesn’t mean you’re incomplete. Solitude is an opportunity—a blank slate where you get to write the next chapter of your life without distractions.

Therapist’s To-Do: Start reframing the way you talk about being single. Instead of saying, I’m single, say, I’m focused on myself right now. This simple shift in language can change how you feel about your current situation. The next time someone asks why you’re single, own it. Instead of treating it like a phase you’re waiting to escape, treat it as a conscious choice to focus on yourself and your growth.

In Single on Purpose, I talk about how I had to change my own perspective on solitude. Once I stopped seeing it as a burden and started viewing it as a gift, everything changed.

2. Use Solitude to Reconnect With Yourself

One of the greatest benefits of being single is that it gives you the time and space to reconnect with who you are. In relationships, we often lose sight of our own needs, desires, and passions. We get so wrapped up in the other person that we forget who we are outside of the relationship. Being single gives you the chance to rediscover those parts of yourself that you may have neglected.

Therapist’s To-Do: Make a list of activities, hobbies, or interests that you used to love but may have put on the back burner during past relationships. Whether it’s painting, writing, hiking, or traveling, start incorporating those activities back into your life. This is your time to reconnect with the things that bring you joy—without anyone else’s influence or opinions.

In Single on Purpose, I share how I rediscovered my passion for fitness and motorcycles during my time alone. These activities weren’t just hobbies—they were ways for me to reconnect with my identity and sense of purpose. Find your version of that, and lean into it.

3. Focus on Your Personal Growth

Being single is the perfect time to work on yourself. Whether it’s diving into therapy, developing new skills, or working on your mental and emotional health, this period of solitude gives you the opportunity to focus on becoming the best version of yourself. Relationships often distract us from doing the inner work, but being single allows you to fully commit to your own growth.

Therapist’s To-Do: Set specific goals for your personal growth. Maybe it’s working through old emotional wounds, improving your physical health, or learning a new skill you’ve always wanted to try. Whatever it is, make a plan to invest in yourself during this time. This isn’t about being “perfect” for your next relationship—it’s about becoming the most authentic, fulfilled version of yourself for you.

In Single on Purpose, I emphasize the importance of using singlehood as a time for self-development. Instead of waiting for someone else to “complete” you, use this time to become complete on your own.

4. Embrace the Freedom of Doing Things on Your Own

One of the most underrated benefits of being single is the freedom it gives you to do things on your own terms. You don’t have to compromise or consider someone else’s schedule, preferences, or needs. You can take spontaneous trips, try new restaurants, spend a weekend binge-watching shows, or indulge in self-care without anyone else’s input.

Therapist’s To-Do: Start taking yourself on solo dates. Whether it’s going to a movie, taking yourself out to dinner, or planning a solo getaway, practice enjoying your own company. This isn’t about avoiding people—it’s about realizing that you are enough on your own. The more comfortable you become with being by yourself, the more empowered you’ll feel.

In Single on Purpose, I talk about how learning to enjoy your own company is one of the most empowering things you can do. When you stop needing others to entertain or validate you, you start realizing just how much joy you can create for yourself.

5. Build a Life That Feels Full Without a Relationship

Many people fall into the trap of thinking that their life will start once they’re in a relationship. They put off dreams, adventures, and even their own happiness, waiting for someone else to join them. But here’s the truth: your life is happening now, and you don’t need a partner to make it full or meaningful.

Therapist’s To-Do: Stop waiting for someone else to build the life you want. Start now. Whether it’s pursuing your career goals, traveling to places you’ve always wanted to see, or creating new traditions, start building a life that feels rich and fulfilling on your own. A partner should complement your life—not be the reason for it.

In Single on Purpose, I encourage readers to focus on creating a life they love, whether they’re in a relationship or not. The more you build a life that feels full without relying on someone else, the more confident and whole you’ll feel.

6. Join a Community That Supports Your Journey

Solitude doesn’t mean isolation. While being single is a time to focus on yourself, it’s also important to stay connected to a community that understands your journey and supports your growth. Having like-minded people around you can make all the difference as you navigate the ups and downs of being single.

Therapist’s To-Do: Join the Single On Purpose App, a community where you can connect with others who are on a similar path of self-discovery and personal growth. Inside the app, you’ll find live events, meetups, and discussions that are all about embracing your singlehood and using this time to become the best version of yourself.

Being part of a community helps you stay grounded and inspired as you navigate your own journey of self-discovery.

Being single doesn’t have to be something you “get through.” It can be something you cherish, a time for reflection, growth, and rediscovery. Solitude is a gift, offering you the chance to reconnect with who you are at your core, without the distractions of a relationship.

So, instead of seeing this time as a waiting period, embrace it. Use your solitude to build a life that’s full of joy, purpose, and meaning. And if you need support along the way, the Single On Purpose App is here to connect you with others who are doing the same.

Hope to see you inside,

JK