Why They Really Cheated

And What It Means for You

It may be helpful to see that there was a reason for your partner’s cheating. And that reason may have nothing to do with you. It also didn’t just come out of nowhere. It came from somewhere, even if it was just an impulse.

Impulsivity may have been a pattern of behavior. Maybe compounded by the situation or by drift, whether in the relationship or within self. As you mull over being cheated on, it may also be helpful to see your ex as a person, not a monster.

In general, there are six reasons why people cheat:

1. Anger or Revenge

Some cheat as an act of revenge. For example, if one partner has been flirting with someone or even cheating, the other partner may cheat as well as a form of payback. Anger-driven infidelity may be driven by:

• Frustration when your partner doesn’t understand you or your needs

• Anger at a partner who is never around

• Anger at a partner who doesn’t seem to contribute to the relationship

• Anger or frustration after an argument

All these are reactions to feelings that are …